There are already many books as the best parents we can teach. But there are some challenges that are faced by a mother as a parent and that is very much different than a father. Here is how to deal with and raise your children well:
1st Be patient. Being a mother is sometimes a little difficult, especially if you have a son. But try to stay calm and patient. Try this procedure each time a problem occurs. Stay calm, explain the practical reasons for not doing something, then why do not they do so.
2nd Take an interest in your child's interests. If your son loves music, he belikanlah a guitar and see how he plays. Questions such as what kind of music, favorite songs, and others. If your daughter is interested in fashion, they take on the business. Ask him what he is interested in fashion. Do not be afraid to ask you, do not just push. Even if you call your child and she answered in a loud voice, regardless of try and speak again after they are no longer so angry. Sometimes when they say something with a high note, you should ask them what was wrong. If they say nothing, it just means you need to go to them to figure out what was wrong, but sometimes they can come to you.
3rd Do not be too tight with money. Squander the money is not every day the best thing to do, but not automatically say no to your child. If you say no over and over with advice to save money, will take you to the parents who never buy anything to be known. Buy something small, even just by offering them candy or chips can be bought at the store make a difference. Every now and again to buy something big that you think your child really wants. For example, an iPod with their favorite color, or perhaps a teenager, you can enjoy a nice computer. Generous on the birthday of your child, perhaps to buy something that already indicate they want is for a long time. You can also view it for a special dinner, a movie, choose a nice gift or accept gifts from parents.
4th Make sure to talk to, and easily accessible. Try very hard to understand and always a good listener. You should know that they are their mothers for friendship advice, information about puberty, homework help, or simply to meet only a hug, if they wanted to split. If your child is not someone who can speak it, it can lead the children always to the wrong information from the outside. So make sure to talk with them about what they feel on a regular basis.
5th Provide support, do not laugh, hobbies, interests or your child's friends. If your daughter does not want to study medicine and doctor, do not you angry. This is the life of your child and they can make their own decisions. Understand that it's okay if your child thinks differently from you. Do not get mad because they have a different opinion, you or your son wants to become an engineer and not a doctor. Do not laugh at them or their friends. Whether your daughter listens to hip-hop and wearing too much eyeliner, he is still your daughter. Likewise, if your son is friends with someone who speaks in a foreign accent or a different skin color. You probably will not do what your children do, but it is their decision, not you. They have a big impact on their lives - where they should go to school if it is time for them to eat, the amount of their compensation in the week. Do not be too excessive in other cases.
6th Admit when you make mistakes and not be afraid to apologize. It is hard to do, but it's better for everyone if you admit mistakes and apologize. That would all difficulties, because to avoid the trouble because of your mistake if you become stubborn and teach your children, it is okay to error, as important as an apology to make. Calm down, assess the situation to realize what mistakes you have made and why.
Then apologize and explain why you act this way. Good way to start might say, "I would like for what I apologize for not before, and I realized I was wrong", then the results beyond the ordinary, you are looking to get from him.
As a good mother, it is really possible? In addition, combined with the growing conditions are not conducive to time recently. How to react?
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